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Caryl Greenberg, MSW, LSW 

Being Grateful Will Make You Happier

Being grateful will make you happy. This shouldn’t come as a surprise choosing to focus on good things makes you feel better than focusing on bad things. However for many people gratitude is difficult because life is difficult. But we don’t have to be slaves to our feelings, circumstances and genes. Evidence suggests that we can actively choose to practice gratitude and that doing so raises our happiness. There is evidence based science to back this up.
For example, researchers in one 2003 study randomly assigned one group of study participants to keep a short weekly list of the things they were grateful for, while other groups listed hassles or neutral events. Ten weeks later, the first group enjoyed significantly greater life satisfaction than the others. Other studies have shown the same pattern and lead to the same conclusion. If you want a truly happy holiday, choose to keep the “thanks” in Thanksgiving, whether you feel like it or not. How does all this work? One explanation is that acting happy, regardless of feelings, coaxes one’s brain into processing positive emotions. In one famous 1993 experiment, researchers asked human subjects to smile forcibly for 20 seconds while tensing facial muscles, notably the muscles around the eyes called the orbicularis oculi (which create “crow’s feet”). They found that this action stimulated brain activity associated with positive emotions. Gratitude is a way for people to appreciate what they have instead of what they don’t have. (Based on an article by Jason Brooks)
I hope to see many of you at the Veterans Day Event on November 9th at 11 am where we will express our gratitude to Veterans who have contributed to this great nation and to the advance of human freedom. Every veteran has earned this nation’s permanent gratitude and we have an opportunity to personally thanks our Veterans!
Lastly, I am grateful for many things one of which is you for reading this in its entirety! Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving to all.


  Save the Date: November 9th 2017 @11:00 am

In Honor of South Brunswick Veterans

       Whether you volunteered or were drafted, whether you were overseas or stateside, whether you served on a ship, land or air, if you were a bombardier, repaired aircraft or provided sustenance to the troops while on K.P, I know I speak for everyone when I say that we are incredibly grateful for the sacrifices you made in your lives to keep us safe & our country free.

       After meeting monthly for the last several years with our Veterans Group I have grown to appreciate all of you and all you have done. Many of you were practically babies at 18 or 19 years old surviving basic training

and beyond with conditions that were difficult and lonely. You didn’t know if you would ever see your parents again or get married or have families. You are all heroes; those who had engaged in active combat and those who did not. Richard B Cheney stated ‘every veteran has contributed to this nation and to the advance of human freedom. Every veteran has earned this nation’s permanent gratitude’.  In just a couple of weeks we will be celebrating Veterans Day at the senior center. Veterans Day is largely intended to thank all veterans but is especially salient for living Veterans to honor them for their dedicated and loyal service to our country. We also solemnly respect and rightly honor those who have died for our country on this day.

     This is a really nice opportunity to honor our local Veterans and thank

them for their service to this great country. You can show your

appreciativeness by attending this year’s ceremony.  We will have speakers

and a special surprise from the South Brunswick Knitting Club. If you are

a veteran please sign up in the office so we know you will be attending. Additionally if you would like to participate in the ceremony by reciting a

poem (which I can provide) or simply sharing some sentiments please let

me know no later than October 30th.  Please help to make this year’s

ceremony meaningful by being part of it.


On another note:

Tuesday, December 21st is the first day of winter! Do

you know who’s shoveling your driveway? Please do

not wait to make arrangements. There will be flyers in

 the senior center from licensed and insured

landscapers willing to provide snow removal to you

along with their rates or contact Caryl.  



It Takes a Village; Maintaining Quality of Life

"If you want to go fast, go alone; but if you want to go far, go together." NJ Senator Cory Booker used that African proverb during one of his speeches and I could not agree more. When my kids were little I was a stay at home mom for a few years and because of that I was able to help other moms that worked. I would drive their kids’ places; play dates would always be at my house and sometimes kids would sleep over just to make it easier on the moms. I always thought this was good karma and it really felt like ‘it took a village ‘to take care of our children. I was helped out also when needed.
In the last few weeks I have noticed something very similar happening here and it is heartwarming. An example; there is a mobile home community in town that has taken on a ‘family persona’. I have
a client who is having a tough time and when I went to see her I had learned that the maintenance employee had helped her out in many ways; walked her dog, warmed up some food for her and she told me
it wasn’t the first time. I have witnessed people helping some frailer individuals in the cheers/lunch room by getting their lunch for them, encouraging them to eat and even sometimes opening their utensil packets. This might not sound like much but it really is. Sometimes it’s the little things that help maintain quality of life; placing batteries in a flipper so you can watch TV, getting a ride to get your hair done or joining someone who is alone doing a puzzle. We have had many friendships grow out of caring for one another. There are a group of women who now travel together all over the world but the friendship started as one doing a small favor for the other. Luckily, we also have formal services to help older adults like meal delivery and home care. So next time you think about it see what you can do to help someone that might need a little assistance or perhaps you’re the one who
needs a little help now and again.

Bereavement Support Group – Sign up with Caryl
Mondays ~ Sept. 11th – Oct. 23rd
10:45am – 12:15pm
In the Piano Room. *No Group 10/9


New Six Week Bereavement Group Forming
When a person we love dies, we face one of life’s greatest changes and challenges. This small group will offer emotional support, education and comfort through your journey
of grief. If you have experienced the recent loss of a spouse or partner, reside in South Brunswick and are 55 or older please
give me a call to register and/or for any questions you may have. We will meet on Mondays’ on the following dates September 11th, 18th, 25th, October 2nd, 16th and 23rd. Meetings will be at the South Brunswick Senior Center at 10:45am -12:15 pm. For
further information and to register please contact Caryl
Greenberg MSW, LSW at 732.329.4000 ext. 7212.

Safe Care Cam
An Initiative to Protect Your Loved Ones Receiving Care
Division of Consumer Affairs announced a new program designed to ensure that NJ residents who suspect their loved ones are being abused, mistreated, or neglected by unscrupulous home health care providers can have access to micro-surveillance cameras that can be easily hidden to detect abuse and protect patients. When you schedule an appointment, the program participant will be required to do the following:
Provide a copy of a driver's license or other official identification.
Provide contact information, including phone number, cell phone number, and address.
Sign a program contract, which sets forth the rules and obligations under the "Safe Care Cam" Program. These cameras are loaned for 30 days and may be extended. Call the Division (973) 504-6375 and follow voice prompts to a "Safe Care Cam”. When you go to pick up the Safe Cam you will also be given a brief training to learn how footage can be recorded, viewed and saved. Value of this program? Priceless!

 Strengthening our Emotional Health
People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their emotions and their behavior. They are able to handle life’s inevitable challenges, build strong relationships, and lead productive, fulfilling lives. When bad things happen, they’re able to bounce back and move on. Unfortunately, too many people take their mental and emotional health for granted – focusing on it only when they develop problems. But just as it requires effort to build or maintain physical health, so it is with emotional health. The more time and energy you invest in your emotional health, the stronger it will be. The
good news is that there are many things you can do to boost your mood, build resilience, and get more enjoyment out of life. According to Monique Marie, people who are emotionally healthy have many characteristics some of which include: An overall sense of contentment, a sense of meaning and purpose, flexibility to learn new things and adapt to change, ability to build and maintain fulfilling relationships, and self-esteem. (This is by no means
a comprehensive list)These positive characteristics of emotional health
allow you to participate in life to the fullest extent possible through productive, meaningful activities and strong relationships. These positive characteristics also help you cope when faced with life's challenges and stresses. Being emotionally and mentally healthy doesn’t mean never going through bad times or experiencing emotional problems. We all go through disappointments, loss, and change. And while these are normal parts of
life, they can still cause sadness, anxiety, and stress. The difference is that people with good emotional health have an ability to bounce back from adversity, trauma, and stress. In the psychological world that is referred to as resilience. People who are emotionally healthy have the tools for coping with difficult situations and maintain a positive outlook. They remain focused, flexible, and creative in bad times as well as good. One of the key factors in resilience is the ability to balance your emotions. The capacity to recognize your emotions and express them appropriately helps you avoid getting stuck in depression, anxiety, or other negative moods; having trusted people you can turn to for encouragement and support will boost your resilience in tough times as well. There are many skills one can use to improve resiliency and one of those is hearing from others in the same
boat and comparing coping strategies If you are interested in joining
‘Stress Busters’ a short term group to start sometime in September to talk about improving and developing approaches to increase emotional
resiliency please let me know.
Speak No Evil Day
We generally don’t think about this but what words we choose to use matters. What we say has an impact. Words could be encouraging, complimentary, supportive and kind or they can come from a place of jealousy, negativity and be cruel, full of gossip and ultimately create barriers. Can you remember a time when you went 24 hours without saying something negative about someone else? We all do it; its human nature and it doesn’t mean that we are bad people but what will make us better? Engaging in conversation that raises others up so that at the end of the conversation you both walk away feeling good is good karma. That is what will make us better.
A famous author, Joseph Telushkin talks about words that heal and words that hurt. I recently attended a presentation where he was discussing this topic. One bit of advice that he gave that really stood out for me was the following: when you are upset with someone the two words that he said you must never use is ‘always’ and ‘never’. When you disagree with someone focus on the specific issue. Don‘t say ‘you are ‘always’ late and you ‘never’ care about how I feel’.... The better way of dealing with this scenario is something along the lines of ‘Because you were late, I missed the show and I am angry and hurt because it feels like you don’t care about me and my needs.’ When you speak about the specific incident you do not put the person on the defensive, you are not personally attacking them you are simply dealing with the here and now.
Because words are intangible we don’t think about the harm they can do. But they do harm. Hurtful gossip is usually exaggerated to gain the allegiance of the person we pull into our web so we are not only criticizing someone but we try to create an ‘us against them’ situation. When we walk into a room and overhear a conversation about our character our wound can last a lifetime. So what do you think about our very own ‘Speak no Evil’ day? Keep note of how you do with lifting people up and by the end of the day you will be a better person for it.

So what do you think of having your own ‘Speak no Evil’ day?

Seniors and Driving
‘I only drive locally and I never drive at night.’ Sound familiar? Give yourself kudos if it is because you have insight regarding your driving limitations. No one says aging is easy, but what is the alternative? Having to think about ones future independence is more than a practical matter. The emotional impact of having to count on others and not having the ability to come and go as one pleases is beyond words. How and when do you decide you need to give up driving completely? There are no simple answers to this question. Age is not necessarily the issue;’ are you driving safely’ is the million dollar question. According to experts, older drivers are good drivers. They have a lifetime of experience and often self-regulate by limiting driving in bad weather, at night and in heavy traffic. But as people age, vision, mental speed and physical abilities often decline and that can affect things like driving reaction time, night and peripheral vision, complex decision making and concentration.

Here are some early warning signs to consider should you want to think about yourself or someone else’s ability to drive safely:
Are you having problems finding your way on unfamiliar streets, obeying traffic signs or reacting to traffic? Are there unexplained dents in the car or are you receiving traffic tickets and/or warnings? Is there a loss of muscle strength? Do you have pain of age related conditions creating a decrease in range of motion? Any one of these alone might not mean anything but, if you find a pattern it should raise a red flag. Incidentally, there are assistive devices that need a prescription from your doctor that might make driving easier and safer. For example, for someone who has a difficult time turning the steering wheel, a steering wheel knob is available to act a as lever to amplify rotational force exerted by the driver. There are also grippers to assist when someone can’t strongly grip the steering wheel. These devices as well as others might help to extend years of safe driving and accessing these devices is easier than you might think!


Ted Talks are Here!  Ideas Worth Spreading

TED is a nonpartisan nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks. TED began in 1984 as a conference where Technology, Entertainment and Design converged, and today covers almost all topics — from science to business to global issues — I have been watching TED Talks for some time and thought it would be wonderful to watch as a group and discuss topics ranging from personal to global. Please come and spread the word!!

Video and discussion, facilitated by Caryl


Caregiving, Maintaining Friendships

And joining a Caregiving Support Group

          Many of you have shared with me your thoughts, concerns, feelings and challenges when it comes to being a caregiver. Though I have not personally experienced caregiving for an older adult I can see while it has many gratifying moments, it is intense, exhausting and all consuming.

          Caregiving is defined as providing unpaid assistance for the physical and emotional needs of another person raging from partial to 24 hour round the clock care.

          Caregivers are ‘on call’ 24/7. If you are out enjoying time with friends or family your mind often defaults to worrying about how your spouse or loved one is doing. Just because someone is in not at home does not entirely change your role as caregiver.

          Another reality of being a caregiver is how difficult it is accepting or making plans with friends. It is tiresome to always say ‘you can’t’ and it’s probable that person doing the asking will eventually stop asking. People will ask ‘how are things going’ and you find yourself responding with the shortened version so you don’t ‘bore them with details’.  You do appreciate their concern but you reflect on if they are just being polite.  It can be very isolating to be a caregiver.

          You have shared that you feel most people don’t know how to relate to you anymore. Is it that they still have reasonable ‘normal’ lives or fear that one day their life might be as intense and all too consuming as mine? Whatever the reason, you have said your social life is going by the waste side.

          We all know how important social relationships are in every stage of life. If you are not a caregiver I bet you know someone who is one. Is there anything you can do to reach out to that person? If you are a caregiver can you figure out a way to give yourself a break?

          One way to manage caregiver stress is to join a support group. ‘You are not alone’ is very encouraging and empowering. Please give me a call if you would like to join a support group which will be newly formed and take place at the senior center: time and dates to be determined.

Attention Veterans and Their Dependents We are very excited to announce that The NJ Department of Military and Veterans Affairs, Veterans Service Officer will be coming to the Senior Center quarterly to assist Veterans. Joe Battito will be available on June 9th from 8:30 am-noon. The Veteran Service Officer will assist veterans and dependents in regard Veteran benefits, claim work and referrals that you may be eligible for. To schedule an appointment please contact Joe at 732.937.6347.

Yiddish Group

The Yiddish language has been the subject of a class at the center for a while. This is a small group and the hope is to gain some additional participants. They concentrate on reading (using transliteration) and converting to English, various stories that are generally short and humorous. A little knowledge of Yiddish is helpful especially if you grew up hearing the language spoken. They meet on Thursdays from 1:15-2:45 pm in the Art Room. Come drop by and schmooze a bisl (chat a little bit) with the other members

Join A Group...

 on Your Mind 

"What's On Your Mind" meets on Fridays at 2:15 p.m. to discuss current events and information that interests you. We welcome new members.  You can drop in anytime.  Call Caryl for more information. 

Monthly Bereavement Support Group
Ongoing support group which meets the first Monday of every month at 11:45. Participants offer mutual support to each other as we share our struggles and grief in a safe non-judgmental venue.

The Senior Center also offers a six week Bereavement Support Group when there has been a more recent loss of a significant other. Please call Caryl for more information.


Book Club
A weekly group using literature as a conduit for discussion. Participants share thoughts and feelings about what they have read and relate it ‘if applicable’ to their life experience. We meet every Thursday (except the first Thursday of the month) at 10:30 am. Please call Caryl for more information.


Meets the first Friday of every month at 10:30 a.m. in the conference room.  This is an opportunity to meet new people, share information and benefit from mutual support. 


Veterans age 55 + meet monthly to share stories and strive to re-create the camaraderie that is experienced when sharing a common bond. This group meets monthly on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 10:45 a.m.

Social Work Services
As more individuals are choosing to ‘age in place’, the senior center offers ‘home visits’ by the Social Worker to the HOMEBOUND elderly. We can provide limited case management services, emotional support and counseling. Many issues include loss, care giving concerns and tensions, coping with health problems, relationship issues, independence, depression, substance abuse, isolation and more.  The Social Worker also sees individuals and couples on site. Please contact Caryl Greenberg for further information. 


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Office on Aging
Christine Wildemuth

Senior Center
540 Ridge Road
Monmouth Junction, NJ 08852
732-329-4000 x7670
(rotary phones)
732-329-4000 x7363
Center Hours
Monday to Friday
8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.
1:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.